Questions are better than orders

"Mom, how do I look?" "No, honey, I think you should try on this one." The Mom was frowning. "I think it's cute! I'll take it," the girl insisted.

From baby, kid to teen, I think most of what I say, think, do and wear are somehow decided by my parents. I'm not saying that they are dictators or something, while what I mean is why they didn't encourage me to make the decisions on my own. Their decisions gave me the sense of security which I've always relied on. I appreciated all thier efforts and care. But... isn't it too much?

I've shopped a lot recently, though this is not the point. XD The point is that I just found Amreican teenage girls know what they're gonna wear so well. "Mom, I think this is much better!" "That one sucks!" "Oooh~ Mommy, this dress is so cute!" Why didn't I act like this when I was a little girl? I was always like, "Mom, which one is better?" "Mom, what do you think? I don't know which one suits me." I had no idea what I'd like to wear. I mean, independencs and confidence can start from these daily stuff, don't they? I wonder why everytime I prefered something, there was always a person telling me, "No, you shouldn't," instead of "You really think so? then take it." I think a question mark is much better than an order, an imperative tone, which is what American education discourages.

They know who they are, what they're gonna be, and what they like. Because thier parents and teachers always give them a question, they definitely (well, maybe) have answers in thier own minds. However, I (or we Chinese), was always asked to listen to instead of speaking. Therefore, we don't have answers and thoughts since we're not asked and not supposed to ask.

If there were no questions, how come there would be any answers?
If there were no questions, how come there would be any thoughts?
Education throws you questions, and learning teaches you how to catch them. Like baseball, if you learn well, you hit a home run.