When loneliness drives you to find out how to keep away from loneliness, you would be swamped in horror. Because it's difficult to get along with others if you can't be your own friend. Since you can't deal with others, you will be bathed in inexistence. That feeling will keep persuading you that you must be lonely, you must be lonely, and you have to break the silence. You forget that it's the motive which you want to destroy the loneliness that constructs the overwhelming solitude. In this fast-paced city, actually, we all are solitary individuals.
Growing-up teaches you what loneliness is, and loneliness teaches you how to grow up. They both complement each other.
A second ago, I'm just a fragile paper doll without living ability. Parents are both looking after us every single day. A second ago, some of my best friends are just playing hide-and-seek at the nearby park with me.
Blinks later, I take bus by myself, sit in a 200-kilometer-away-from-home classroom by myself, and live in another city all alone.
It's obvious that I'm already an individual, an individual that lives on my own. Thoughts and moves are not puppets of others. I belong to me. At that moment, it indeed comes along with melancholy and solitude.
However, time teaches us not how to solve the problems but how to struggle and get along with problems for good. It is said that"Solitude is a thought of precipitation in storms, and after the storms come a clear sky." "No matter it's in-or-out, clouds must exist. We can't let it disappear, but we can let it precipitate."
The most difficult part for us to divide is the line between solitude and loneliness. Learn to be with solitude and cherish the momemts that solitude brings with. When we get along with solitude, we will clearly listen to our own heart beat, feel each breath we take and face to ourselves more honestly.
This is a perfection of solitude, not a restlessness of loneliness.
A corner of every hearts is occupied by solitude. No matter how you want to get rid of it, or how you want to realize, whatever it is, at last, we all choose to face the solitide and grow up.
-Based on an article of one of my best friends, Saffronist. I just do the translation anyway.
Here is some suggestions of how to be a lone:
Find things that I enjoy on my own
Take up personal projects (creatively or otherwise)
Have ready access to good music (silence makes the loneliness more apparent)
Take GOOD CONTROL over my thoughts
Guide my thought process totally
what a solitude
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